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The '3' Things Every New Dad Must Know

Posted on July 8, 2010
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The '3' Things Every New Dad Must Know

I have seen so much information and resources for Moms and Moms-to-Be, but rarely have I seen information and tips specifically for a new Dad. So many Dads I've spoke with seem willing to spend money on the latest and greatest book on "how to raise your baby" that I felt compelled to offer Dads a brief lesson in what it takes to be a GREAT DAD. You'll hear a lot of advice from far too many people that say things like, "No TV before their five" or that "You need to train them to clean their plate." Well, it isn't that they are wrong necessarily; it's just that they feel that their way is the "right" way.

There are three components that happy and successful Dads use. If you utilize these three things from my personal experience, you will have a more enjoyable experience as a Dad.

1. Listen to your Intuition. This is THE most important. Don't think because this is your first baby and because you have never done this before that you don't have a strong feeling of how you want to raise, care, and help your new baby. YOU make the choices for your child and will undoubtedly receive a lot of advice, but you are the decision maker for your baby. You know how you were raised and there may be parts you want duplicate for your child and other things you want to change. There is no "right" or "wrong" way; you ultimately make that choice until your child can make those choices themselves.

2. Embrace Playtime. What you offer your baby is a different energy than Mom. Often more adventure and outward based. Overly simplified, a Mom usually likes to keep her baby close to her, often facing her. While many Dads will carry their baby facing out to explore the world with him. A baby learns from their interactions with you, so the time you spend exploring fingers, or the latest object they want to put in their mouth is helping them discover their world. It also helps them develop motor skills, language, brain development and so much more. All by simply spending time playing together.

3. Make Time For Yourself. When Dads take time to recharge, they will really be present and appreciate the time they have with their baby. How you do this is not important, what is important is that you do this every week. It is a great way to let go of any stress, worries, or concerns you have whether it be work, money, or family related. This way you can truly be with your baby and feel a love that is like no other. If you practice these three things your experience as a Father will be more enjoyable and rewarding for you, your baby, and for your family.

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