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Are You a Lost Mom?

Posted on July 22, 2010
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Are You a Lost Mom?

As a mom, it can be easy to get lost. Even if you went into parenting very clear about who you were, by the time your child is two years old, you realize that being a mom is pretty consuming and it can be difficult to find even a shred of time to express yourself and take time for your own interests.

Many moms feel they'll have time for themselves once the kids have grown and are out of the house, but this sets you up for a very rough time with empty nest syndrome. When you've devoted your entire life to your children, what do you do with yourself once they've left? In addition, you can wind up with kids who never fly the coop because mom is so focused on serving them.

It's best for you and your kids to continue to nurture who you are - even when they're very small. Even if you have to carve out just a few hours each week to focus on yourself, find someone to watch the children so you can do something you love to do. I talked with one mother who said she'd love to do that but she would NAP.

Napping is good, but I'm talking about spending just a few hours each week remembering who you are. Stay in pottery class, continue to work out, get together with friends for coffee, read. Whatever it is that you loved to do before you had kids (assuming it's healthy) keep doing it. And if you're not sure what you'd like to do, spend some time trying new things.

Kids are watching you as an example. When you take time to take care of yourself, your kids are learning that when they are parents, it will be important for them to nurture themselves too. And that's a good thing for them to know.

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